Modern dating is shit and you don’t have to experienced, to know it; IT’S FUCKING EVERYWHERE. Go look at Buzzfeed or just Google this shit, there are countless articles about ‘DATING HORROR STORIES’ and etc. What I’m trying to get at is a VERY specific situation which seems rare and even worse than the outwardly shitty situations.
WHEN YOU MEET A DUDE WHO IS TRULY A GREAT HUMAN BEING and it doesn’t work out because you have to move and both of ya’ll are realistic as fuck. This obvs happened to me and why I’m writing about it for my first blog post. It’s fucked me up so much b/c I came to terms with the fact that “yeah, I could potentially never meet someone who loves/cherishes me the way I deserve to be and die alone in my future giant mansion with all my beautiful dogs.”
THEN, I met this dude from Tinder who was cool as shit, gave good oral, and someone I could potentially see myself being with… (I realize that hanging out with someone periodically in a span of two months isn’t a superb indicator of this person on a daily basis but whatever) I was moving back home for the summer and I live in the middle of the goddamn bible belt and would be far the fuck away from NY. It was hella torturous to even text with him from time to time because I would be reminded how awesome he is and how I can’t even be with him.
FAST FORWARD TWO MONTHS. I’m in FL visiting one of my besties Syddy for Labor Day Weekend. Halfway through my break here is all the information I received in this exact order:
- My aunt has totaled my car.
- My mom was in a serious car accident and was hospitalized for a spinal injury.
- I found out this dude was in a relationship on a facebook newsfeed.
UGH RIGHT?!?!?!? (I’ll get back to the first two things on another post since it’s kind of irrelevant to this post)
~HERE’S THE ANALOGY I USED TO DESCRIBE HIS NEW RELATIONSHIP ~ It’s like he’s Travis Scott and downgraded from Rihanna to Kylie Jenner… Me being Queen RiRi duhhh. ~ANALOGY DONE~
I felt so shitty|sad|disappointed|mad|annoyed but I constantly questioned myself whether if it was even VALID for me to feel this way because we were not seriously dating… Trust me, I looked online to see if I could find answers and I couldn’t so I just made up my own damn rule.
Getting over anyone you never even dated is a thing and whoever tells you no can go fuck off and suck my metaphorical dick.
What you experience with each person is unique in its own experience and human interactions are relations; however you want to define those relations is up to you. But just realize that how you define may not be the way the other person defines it. I know this last part is mad cheesy but SHOVE THAT DOWN YO THROAT CUZ IT’S TRUE. This is one of the worst situations to be in because it is one the toughest to deal with; it’s easy when a person is a piece of literal flaming shit to move on from, but when it is someone who is such a good person and has not done you any wrong, it’s more difficult to “get over” ya know. From the bottom of my heart, I truly hope he’s happy and his Kylie becomes pregnant. HAHAH JUST KIDDING BUT YA KNOW, I HAD TO DO IT, IT WAS SO GOOD. Seriously though, he is such a great dude, he deserves the best and I’m sure the person he’s dating is amazing.